Stop eating burnt toast!

Slice of burnt toast on a white plate.

 ‘The burnt toast’ theory according to moi.

If you know me then you've heard me mention ‘the burnt toast’ theory.

To me, it means that as caregivers, if we were to make some toast for our family and ourselves and if one slice was to be burnt, we would instinctively keep the burnt piece for ourselves and give the better toast to our family members.

That’s the analogy I have been using for almost 20 years to say that we rarely put ourselves first.

We often prioritise someone else’s wellbeing and happiness over our own.

If you have been known to eat burnt toast on more than one occasion, PLEASE STOP!

I am not suggesting that you serve the slab of cremated simple carb to someone else.

Just throw it away and start again.

Out of fresh loaf? Your loved ones should be happy to share with you their perfectly golden bread.

We should, for the sake of our wellbeing, treat ourselves with the same respect, patience, tolerance, understanding and love that we so readily offer others.

If your partner, child, sibling, friend….deserves more than the burnt bits scrapped off the toast above the kitchen sink, then so do you.

You may not feel above or more deserving than anyone else in your household but you are right there at the top. Actually, you are the most important person in your life.

If you have small children or elderly parents who depend on you then you are the most important person in their lives as well.

Taking care of yourself, prioritising your needs so that you feel good within yourself and are firing on all cylinders, makes you a better partner, parent, friend etc….

Think about it. When you are sleep deprived and stressed, you may be short tempered, snappy and not great to be around.

When you are rested and content, you probably want to spread love and joy. You are more likely to give other people time and attention. This certainly applies to me.

Anyway….this week I somehow stumbled upon the 'real' meaning of the ‘burnt toast theory’.

According to Mr Google "It’s a concept popularised on social media, suggesting that minor inconveniences, like burning your toast, can actually be beneficial. Potentially preventing a larger, more negative effect."

So not at all what I’ve been preaching all along but I will maintain that my interpretation of the phrase is a good one and you will hear me use this analogy for years to come 😊

In conclusion, please be kind to yourself.

If something is not good enough for your loved ones then it’s not good enough for you!

You are precious and deserve the best 🫶🫶

Sending love......

Florence 💜

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